Wouldn’t it be nice to have had hindsight about some situations?
How often have you said the words;
“If only I knew he was going to turn out to be a jerk.”
“If only I had trusted my gut instinct in that situation.”
“If only we hadn’t have stopped for that coffee….”
“If only I had gone in with that lotto syndicate…”
Well, unless you are fortunate enough to be ‘gifted’ with being able to see into the future; you’re unfortunately going to have situations in your life that you’ll often wish that you’d had some hindsight into.
But what if we were able to make better decisions?
The kind of decisions that may have prevented things from turning out the way they did, or that would have made the situation 10 x better?
Why is it that some of us can have such huge debates in our mind about making decisions, and yet some of us just make split decisions with no hesitation?
Well, here’s 3 things that you can do to start making the whole process a lot easier & more effective!
ELIMINATE UNNECESSARY INFORMATION
Studies have shown that in ‘marketing’, people tend to eliminate all of the thing that aren’t relevant to them first – in order to be able to focus on what’s really important to them.
For example, if I’m looking through a catalogue from ‘Target’; I’d glance over all of the things that are irrelevant to me and focus on the bits that I have an interest in or are most important to me.
Same goes with big decisions in life.
Are you too focused on all of the little details that aren’t really relevant in the big scheme of things?
Do these act as excuses for you making the decisions that are necessary?
Do you get upset with someone for the little things, for the real reason being that you love them – and you want to make it work somehow? Because let’s face it….if you didn’t care about them; the little things wouldn’t bother you. Would they?
So when thinking about making a decision; eliminate all the unnecessary crap. The stuff that is really irrelevant in the big scheme of things, and just focus on what really matters.
Now, this doesn’t give you a free card to start jumping on the ‘Negative Nelly’ bandwagon and think of all of the things that could go wrong!
That’s just fear raising its head and speaking up!
‘Fears’ job is to try and protect you, but it can stop you from living life to the full.
…..So, back to ‘anticipation’.
Let’s take some professional sports people for instance.
Footballers are constantly anticipating what their opposition’s next move will be, and make the decision to defend a certain way.
Golfers anticipate where their ball will land if they use certain clubs & swing the club and hit the ball a certain way.
So, just as they don’t play the game relying on themselves or their opposition to make mistakes; don’t always anticipate the worst outcomes that can happen if you make certain decisions.
Anticipate what can happen, both positive & negative….and think about what your next step would be if that happened.
Try not to think too many steps ahead of yourself…
’See it as it is, not worse than it is’.
Practice your ‘what if…’ muscle in a more positive light.
“What if I did go on that holiday? – would things ‘really’ fall apart at work if I was away?”
“What if the disastrous thing that I’ve been imagining…didn’t happen; and it actually turned out to be ok?”
And if you make a decision, & do happen to make a poor choice….
‘It’s never a failure, its feedback!’
Learn from it, and readjust your next decision accordingly!
BUILD YOUR ‘FAITH’ MUSCLE.
Now, this is not talking about religion – it’s purely about having trust that you will be supported in the decisions you make.
It won’t always mean being supported by ‘people’ around you, but some sort of higher force – ‘God, the universe, fate,’ whatever that means for you…but just a trust, a knowing
– that all will work out the way it’s meant to.
Sometimes you just have to take that leap of faith – and build your wings on the way down!
You never know….you may just fly!
So make more decisions….plenty of them!
….be brave enough to make mistakes…….but LEARN from them!
There are two types of pain in this world…..pain on the road to success, & the pain of regret.
The latter – is more painful & long lasting.